When a leader needs someone to lean on too
There are questions you cannot talk over with anyone in the company. A partner you have begun to doubt. A tiredness that will not pass, because the responsibility is always there. A decision you keep putting off, even though you already know enough to make it.
What you can bring
Maybe nothing in the business gets decided without you, and you cannot seem to hand anything over. The hard conversations keep coming round again, and a week after a holiday the same tension is back.
Here you can look at your situation from the outside — the way you cannot from inside it — and leave the conversation knowing what to do next, not with the same thoughts going round in circles.
- A decision you have been putting off for a long time, or keep going back over.
- Disagreements with a partner that are already hurting the business.
- Delegation that is not working, and trust in your team that is hard to build.
- The feeling that it all rests on you and there is nobody to pass it to.
- Your own role: who you want to be in this company from here on — and whether you want to be in it at all.
- What keeps coming back: different people, the same result.
We take a specific situation
What happened, how you reacted, what you expected of yourself and of others. We look at your habitual reactions, at the thoughts that go round in circles, and at the tension in your body — it often reacts before you have had time to think. When you notice that tension in time, you have a choice you did not have before.
For most of a session I walk beside you through a decision you are already in the middle of, and show you where you stop. Not where you think you stop — where you do. Usually you half know the place. What is hard to see from inside is something else: whose voice it actually is. A partner's, a parent's, an old boss's, the noise of the market, a fear that formed years ago and has been making decisions ever since.
Then we work out which part of it is yours, who you need to talk to, and what you will try to do before we next meet. When we meet again, we go back over what worked and what did not. Seeing it is the start, not the end — for years it has run along the same worn path, and it does not step off it in a day.
Business and private life are not kept apart here, because the thing that answers first in you does not know the difference. The same hour can hold a shareholder question and the one relationship at home that is costing you sleep.
Not all of this sits in you. Sometimes the company needs a different shape, the partner needs one straight conversation, the decision simply needs to be made. If that is what I see, I will say so.
But the thing in you that answers first makes all three harder, and it is written. Anything once written can one day be read. And what can be read can be rewritten. That part is my work.
What we are aiming for
The aim is for you to see your situation clearly, know firmly what you want, and do what you have decided to do.
What it looks like from inside
I will not give you steps on this page, and not out of stinginess. This work goes by what your body is doing in that minute, and a line of text cannot see it. The same sentence will untie one person and take another in deeper.
But I do not want to leave it a bare word, so here is one case, on a small thing — on the small thing you can see what the large one hides behind its drama.
An ordinary evening, we've just finished supper, the plates still on the table. Someone close, in passing, with no ill meaning at all, says: "You never finish anything you start." And from those few words everything inside had already risen: the familiar tightening in the chest, the body knowing its line by heart, the first words already on my tongue.
I was too slow to stop the attitude from forming — it formed itself, in a fraction of a second, without my leave. All the work began a moment later: I noticed it. I saw it rise, saw the button it had caught on, saw that the sharp answer was the line worn thinnest of all, ready to jump out on its own. And in that short slit I simply didn't let it jump.
I didn't swallow the hurt and didn't pretend I didn't care — the hurt was there. I just didn't lock onto it: didn't start arguing my case to it, didn't start justifying myself. I looked at it — and it settled, the way silt settles when you stop stirring the glass. I answered then from another place, quieter than I'd meant to.
That was a kitchen table, and the cost of getting it wrong was an evening. With the partner you have been circling for two years, that same second costs not an evening but a share of the company. I know, because that is how I lost my second one.
What I call information
When I say information, I do not mean the news. I mean the trace of a state that any system gives off into the world by the very fact of existing. The space in which the states of people, places and communities are present at once and interact is what I call the information field. You walk into a room after a quarrel — the quarrel is over, yet the air is hard to breathe. That is it.
Most of what you catch never reaches consciousness. It does not vanish — it settles in the body: in the breath, the jaw, the shoulders — and it steers your reactions before you have had time to think. A notification appears — you don't yet know who it's from, and already something has tightened, the shoulders have gone up, the hand has reached out. You did not decide that. It was decided for you long ago — and ever since it has been answering in your place.
I have found a way to change information in the field. That works directly on the state of consciousness and on the run of situations — on which situations come to you one after another. Whether it works you will see not in my room but in your own company. The situations that went round in circles for years stop coming — not because you have learned to steer around them, but because there is nothing left in you for them to catch on.
I wrote about this in more detail in an article.
ArticleWhat is information: how the invisible takes form→I will not teach you to run a company
You do that better than I do. This is not coaching and not management consulting. I work with what cannot be seen from across the table: with what fires in you before the thought and leads you, every time, into the same situation with different people. The scenery changes, the plot does not.
When what you give off changes, what comes to you changes too. Not at once and not by itself: it is work, and we do it together.
A typical cycle
First step
Diagnostic
One question, one honest look at it, and a written next step. I look at where you are now, explain what it shows, and we agree on the goal and the strategy.
The session is paid. I tell you the fee when you write, before you decide anything. After it we both decide. If I see it is not mine, I will say so plainly.
First cycle
Clearing
I set your field to clear: the physical and breathing exercises of informational hygiene, and methods of my own.
One or two weeks after the first cycle the real causes surface — because we have taken off the first layer, the garbage: answers that outlived their question.
After the first cycle
Full diagnostic
We set the direction, the plan for how we work, and the correction of the information field. This is not mysticism but conscious work with your own thoughts and emotions — with everything you give off and amplify.
Here my own methods for handling what is written in you come in: we do not spit anything out and we do not cut anything off. The road is not easy, and we walk it together.
After that
Changes and stability
The run of situations usually starts to change fast. The main thing here is not to fall into the trap of habits and compromises with yourself, which is why in this period there can be several consultations a day.
Then comes a period of testing, and then stability.
We agree on the terms before we start
Personally led
Every meeting is led by me, Bogdan Adamiv-Kostyshyn. You work with me — not with an assistant, and not with a recording.
Confidentiality
What you tell me personally stays between us. And I will not quote my clients at you — their stories are theirs, and they will tell them themselves when they decide to.
Clear terms
We agree on the length and the price before we start. I state the price at the diagnostic and do not change it during the work, however many consultations one question takes. If new questions come up, we agree the terms afresh.
Shared effort
You bring your situation, your decisions and the willingness to act. There is practice and a diary between meetings. I will not do this work for you while you watch. You do the work; I do it with you.
When the problem is not only in you
When it sits between you and your partners, or in the team, I work with them too, usually in person. Who takes part and in what form depends on the question, and we agree it after the diagnostic.
After the work
If you want, I can stay on as your mentor: you bring the decisions that are in front of you.
What I will not do
- I will not promise you anyone else's result.
- I will not ask you to take my word for any of this. See for yourself, test it on yourself — that is the only proof I offer.
This work does not replace medical care, psychotherapy, or financial or legal advice.
Where I learned it
Bogdan Adamiv-Kostyshyn
Founder, School of Informational Yoga
I did not come to this from books. I ran two companies of my own in Ukraine and lost them both — the first to a man I had trusted, the second in a fight with a partner that, at the time, could not be ended cleanly — and I hit the bottom people mean when they say the word.
The thing that ran me wore sobriety: for twenty-two years I called it seeing things clearly, and I was a little proud of it. What changed that was not a better strategy. It was ten years of work with a mentor, from the body up to the deep practices of working with consciousness, in which I found the things that had been making my decisions for me and learned to change them.
Since 2014 I have run delivery in IT — today in Dubai. That means daily work with teams, with other people's expectations, and being responsible for making sure that what was agreed actually gets done. In parallel I built the School of Informational Yoga, where I teach what I learned. So this method is not tested in a retreat. It is tested every working week, by me, on deadlines that are real.
Let's start with your situation
Write to hello@info-yoga.com and tell me, in one sentence, what keeps coming back. I read every message myself and answer within two business days.
I am in no hurry, and nothing here asks you to decide today. Stand at this threshold as long as you need — the address will not be erased because you come to it in a year, or in ten.
This page is the consulting. The School — the levels, the curriculum, the application — is the rest of this site. Some people do both. Nobody has to.
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